Failure. It’s not something many of us are comfortable with but we’ve all failed before. Or felt like we have. Failure isn’t a bad thing. It’s how we learn and grow. And we tend to feel like failures if we don’t reach the goals we set for ourselves.
Every year I start off setting goals and in the past, I’ve written all about it. Then I talk about how we should review and update our goals every three months. Acting like I had my ish together.
Narrator: She did not have her ish together.
Over the years, I’ve gotten really good at setting goals. It’s still a challenge but I can decide on and set goals. What I can’t seem to do is complete said goals. I try but I either don’t know how to start and spend hours, days, even weeks researching and trying to figure it out. Or I get a flying start and can’t wrap my head around how to finish.
As I mentioned above I often get stuck in an obsessive research loop. I will research a topic to death before I actually start an action step or give up because I’m over it. Or I just can’t figure out the next action step. I really struggle with breaking things down into small steps.
I also think I have more time to complete things than I do (or I think everything takes 15 minutes while in reality, it takes an hour).
I’ve also suffered from too many interest-itis. It’s a real thing, look it up. 😉 I’ve always wanted to do it all. I’ve tried to limit myself but it never seems to work. I get annoyed and upset then give up on things so I can do another. Then I get upset that I’m not reaching any goals because I keep jumping around.
So this year I’m not going to tell you to set goals. Or to follow up every three months. Nope. This year I am going to tell you it’s ok to set or not set goals. It’s ok to set aside one goal and focus on another new, shiny goal.
You’re not a failure if you don’t accomplish a goal. You’re not a failure if you change it up every month. Or week. Or heck, even if you change it up every day.
This year, I am going to set goals but I’m going to try to look at them differently. Some of them will be fairly easy (read 52 books – I’ve been doing that for a while now and make sure I fit it in). Others I may float in and out of. My focus this year is to create. I have set create as my word of the year and a lot of my goals will revolve around that. But they aren’t strict. I want to create every day. That might be painting. It might be editing a few images.